This is getting really annoying

Yeah so today I got extremely tempted to read a new book ... But exams are coming up. So ,
Instead of ACTUALLY studying I just waste time thinking about studying and get guilty and all of a sudden I'm drowsy.
Wonder if it happens to everyone or am I the only one with the no-aim-but-still-living life.
Trying to study again.
Cheerio :)

RUNAWAY BRIDESSSS..

All over the world the proper 'etiquette' or rule book to courting girls for marriage is different . But in the end it all comes down to one thing ... a girl has to be married before shes 26-28 !!! or else .. well poor thing is seen as a charity case . The Parents are praying to find or 'fix' their daughter up with some 'well-settled' bachelor .. as long as he has money and a job !!

COME ON Parents !!! is that the only thing left in this world ? be it America or UK or Asia its the same everywhere .

Why cant girls have dreams of getting an nice person who is actually handsome too ??

don't know about others but the culture here in the sub-continent is 'get married before you get wrinkles' .

and whats the best way but to fix up an arranged marriage . this is how it goes :

PART 1 ,

The girl is dressed up as much as a clown/puppet whichever you think is more scary . Then shes made to stand in the kitchen and look at whats cooking just in case her stupid future in-laws and husband ask what dishes there are for dinner/lunch . Doesn't that kind of show The Parents what kind of a guy he is . He's more obsessed with what food he's gonna stuff in his mouth than thinking about the life he might spend if he says yes . SAYING YES ! that's another essay all together . Which shall be discussed in full animation of course .

PART 2 ,

is the meeting-the-family part . Hello auntie Hello uncle .. Hello .....OMG hes bald .. he has a pot belly ... hes short .. he's a complete UNCLE !! seriously is that what all the beautiful girls in the world are left for ?? to marry someone who looks like he loves his office to bits and signs on office files all day !! i know its mean but come on appearance always matters too . its the first thing we can see .. you cant just perform an open heart surgery and check if the guy's heart is golden !!

PART 3 ,

Is the asking silly questions to somehow pry into what the girl is actually like . 'beti , what kind of bedsheets do you like?' , or 'mama cooks and you watch isn't that true no ??all girls your age are like this.'

But in their hearts these two lines translate to 'do you know anything about bed linens and household items ' .. and ..'are you actually the perfect servant we are looking for or are you a couch potato like my son , my husband and me of course.'

PART 4 ,

Is when they finally -after eating everything put in front of them- go home and leave us alone . 1,2,3 there goes Mommy on a 'how nice they were' ..'such a sophisticated family' ... 'these are the types of matches that we reject just 'cause our daughters have become too independant'.

And finally ..

PART 5 ,

Is the arguing part .. in which your trying to tell your mom how nice it would be to actually marry someone that in the least isn't bald .. imagine your wedding pics .. your all young and dainty. And well your 'uncle husband' is all ...uncle-ish . I wish The Parents would get that rushing through a marriage isn't the right thing to do . It turns messy in the end and we all blame The Parents in the end. Which child would want to do that?? none i guess .. but they are compelled to out of sheer frustration .

And now the SAYING NO part ....

Dear Mr.whatever your job is ....

I am an educated girl .. with an above average IQ , Passable looks and well.. some standards and wishes in life . HOW ARE YOU SAY 'we would like if the girl lost some weight before marriage , you see auntie I don't like Fat girls ' . STFU Mr.loser !! i mean seriously !! have you looked at you dear old mommy who has turned into a pig and is continuing to do so without shame as she eats all the fried chicken we put in front of her !!??

or Did you look at your own HOT BOD !! pot belly and slouchy posture .

I'd like to get an answer on that as soon as your mom turns a size zero. ...... oh which is never !!!

see ya later sucker... I'm so totally rejecting you .. not coz of your appearance .. but because you want to change mine ... idiot loser ullo ka patha .

So yeah this is probably the scene of your house if you have an older sis .. if you don't then don't be deluded.. its coming your way pretty soon. :P

Cheerio:)

Bubbles are burst

Sometimes I'm super happy or excited about something. And when I come to my friends to tell them the cause of such pure excitement or happiness ..POOOFF .. it's all gone because they just don't react at all . Or have a horrible weird reaction that's along the lines of disappointment. I Mean come on !!
Why can't people I want to share my stuff with get it the way I want them too? Is it expecting something they are not capable of ? Or is it their fault that they can't even be happy for my sake !! We always give the reaction our loved one wants ... Even if it means being going against our personality ... Isn't that what attachment is about ? Loving and being happy in the choices our loved ones make. Be the choices right or wrong.
Confused and kind of pissed 'coz I can't make people understand that we want the same stuff you do. The same reactions , the same support.


But I guess that is the beauty of a relationship. Your still willing to do it all and bear it all even.
Try doing that for the ones you love ... Or be the one to hope for that reaction !
Cheerio :)

Food frenzy

My exams are starting again :@ 

Which obviously means i spend my afternoons sitting in the library trying to somehow become sponge bob and soak up all the subjects without trying . And when i reach my saturation .. actually super saturation point I get up and off i go trotting along to the cafeteria . 

That's my favourite part about the exam "season" . THE FOOD . I eat like a pig/cow/hippo which ever eats the most. And i also BLOW UP LIKE THEM TOO ;)but I don't mind the getting-extra-fat on me part .

The feeling of when you dig into a bowl of ice cream and forget that you cant solve complex variable Fourier shit is heavenly . 

I eat biscuits and all of a sudden finishing the cream inside them is the only worry i have .. not of some stupid 50 page chapter I have to memorize . 

The only worry and the only joy is FOOOOODD . 

I fall on my couch at home and literally want to beg for the softest sofa in the world when I return to the library .. WOW  I mean seriously can there be any better feeling ??... I think not .. the sleep and the feeling of relaxation .. I finally start having fun in that exam "season" :P

So my 10 comfort must-try foods/drinks for anyone who has exams are as follows :

1.ICE CREAM (choco mint is the ultimate fave , but others will do the trick:))

2.PASTA (red sauce not white sauce plzzz tooo much adipose :p)

3.CHILLEDDDDD COKE (put in the ice first then pour the coke)

4.FRENCH FRIES (try mixing ketchup with mayo as the sauce)

  5.CHICKEN TIKKA 

6.PIZZA(pepperoni)

7.COLD COFFEE (with chocolate chips)

8.SOUP with GARLIC BREAD(tomato , hot'n'sour are my fav)

9.BREAD with oodles and oodles of soft BUTTER 

10.CHOCOLATE (any one of your favourites .. although I don't think people have specifications of fav .. chocolate is chocolate)

 

Cheerio:)

Sweet memories .

When I moved to Karachi in 2005 well to be honest I was totally hating it .. being a Punjabi girl who was like all of my fellow punjabans had the habit of being stared to x-ray pulp in every bazaar in Punjab , I expected alot of of this "metropolitan" city . With the impression of women being independent .. not caring about what other peoples' lives are about .. not going after some form of social status , I had a tonne of expectations from here . 

At first I had my happy days . I was fitting well in school , people were nice and i loved the fact of how no one cared whose parents had a fight or whose sister married someone of another caste . Then I got into UNI .....

......well wow that was the wake up call for me .. the so called "progressive" city that Karachi was turned out to be junk .. no one wanted people to be better than them in any or every field of professional or domestic arena of life . They all turned out to be jealous idiots . The "women"-are-treated-with-such-liberty-here city turned out to be the same male egotistic world that the rest of my and all other peoples countries are . 

they stare at you if you dare to wear jeans unless you wear it with a long kurta that makes u look like some huge teddy bear .. they whistle at you .. sing super cheap songs that point towards nothing but DESPERATION . 

And the thing I loved the most about this place , that no one gossiped or cared about what was going on in other peoples personal lives , well.... that turned out to be bullshit too .  Girls gossip all around the world .. its their nature .. but BOYS !!! I mean these homo sapiens with slicked back hair and baggy jeans and their Levi's tshirts .. who would've guessed they had a women inside of them longing to blossom ... and the blossomed on .. yeah you guessed it right ... GOSSIP , some spicy juice news of who is going put with who or who was wearing what when I caught them at the gas station . I mean seriously dude !!! get a life and if you cant then at least get a girlfriend . 

These lovely virtues of my fellow uni goers is now a central part of my life .. I'm scrutinized , criticised , hooked up with a guy I barely know , or worse even called a mad hatter !! 

And the credit of such lovely accolades goes to all the boys around me that have an unquenchable thirst for gossip .. 

All I'd like to tell them is that although I realized that places don't matter .. still dude don't crash the hopes of other people who move to a place near you . 

try not to thrive on juicy sources . Grow up and stop watching gossip girl and acting like a Chuck Bass . And if you do watch it PLEASE do it for the chicks .. it'll save you from being chickens . And besides ... THAT would be normal boy behaviour .. don't be a sissy .. be a man for once . Not the ones with gay muscles and v-neck tshirts .. men with a brain muscles .. also called neurons. 

Cheerio :)

HOPE .. in its most shattered form .. but it's still there

There are some 'issues' around me I feel extremely helpless thinking of some possible , logical , happy , optimistic solution or temporary remedy for . I see women around me .. in all forms .. from extremely successful to extremely beautiful .. all of them struggling on some arena of the simplest day to day life . I want to make a difference in their life . 

They are subjected to physical abuse , mental torture , just plain degradation . Because of what ?? It's because the responsibility of nurturing and giving birth to a whole new generation is in their hands ?? Or is it because they so lovingly feed their husbands with scrumptious dinners ? Is the reason that they struggle so much because of their own mistakes ?? 

I know women who have worked hard all their lives to keep their children alive , to give them some decent education . And yet their husbands hit them and beat them to pulp . 

I've seen a wife who has loved her husband like mad.. given up every single thing for him , taken care of him and placed the world at his feet . And yet after 30 yrs of her life .. she is shattered because the husband hates her .. for no reason at all . Is that really fair ?? 

Giving examples of women that have spend decades trying to keep their families and marriages alive could be blamed upon social taboos back in those ancient times . But what about the girls who have just been married . It's a modern  age .. girls all around us are extremely independent , confident . And yet after they gain some weight due to childbirth their husband tells , actually , 'orders' them to get back to 50kg in a month !!!! I mean SERIOUSLY !! YOU JUST SHATTER SOMEONES CONFIDENCE IN YOU AND IN LOVE BY TELLING THEM ITS ACTUALLY PHYSICAL APPEARANCE THAT MATTERS !!!

I wish I could lessen their pain .. make them feel better ... tell them that they are the most beautiful beings to be loved and cherished . I want to tell them that they are the most graceful forms of the strength that God wants in His people . I cant do that . I'm no missionary type Of a person .. I don't have contacts with media personals .. so all I can do Is a catharsis .. A transfer of my thoughts from me to my keyboard .. and light a candle of hope within me , that my feelings can actually reach someone who need to know that although you don't know me I still want to reach out to you and hold your hand and give you the strength to move on and be stronger .. for your kids , for yourself .. OR just for me . Cause your strength gives me the biggest bucket full of strength that I need . 

Cheerio :)

A good book is always a treat to read ..this one particular book I Picked up  while looking for a distraction. Been smiling the whole way through so far. Surprise!...It's not about manipulation. The phychological principles are natural things we do as humans and most of the time we don't even know it! The findings are based on research and every one of them rings true as I picture my own life experiences. It's all stuff most of us eventually learn, but I wish I'd had this book in high school and college. I'd have been less confused. 

Do try getting a copy of it or reading it over the net .. Simple but highly entertaining.
I even tried some of the techniques first hand .
Cheerio :)

Faith Healers .

I read just a few days back what "faith healing" is .. according to a proper definition Faith healing is healing via spiritual means. So its easy to guess  what faith healers are . Spiritual people .. or people possessing divine interventions that can help one in the healing process be it physical or emotional .

But I kind of would like to change the meaning around a little . Is it really important for some specific people to have some specific spiritual inclination to make others feel better ?? 

Healing I believe always comes from within .. in other words I'd say that to heal from the inside or out it's important to actually start believing ... isn't that kind of what spiritual healing is ?

Spiritualism ..faith , belief they're all from the same basket .. 

So why cant we be healers ??? .. Faith healers .. restoring some form of lost confidence in people ..telling them that they don't have to compare themselves to others .. that people will always be better than them but there are plenty more that are worse .. be grateful we aren't among them. We just need to remind people of the miracles around us all . As Einstein said " there are people who believe nothing is a miracle and there are ones who believe everything is a miracle " .

So faith healing for me would be "actually restoring someones Faith" .. the faith to be restored could be faith in themselves , or in God , in broken but loyal relationships , in our children , our parents , our friends , or simply faith in strangers . 

Hence being a faith healer wouldn't require you to meditate or have some religious inclination .. you just need a keen ear and a soft heart to have healing powers . 

'Cause sometimes healing others is the way to healing the deepest scars within us .

Think and try . 

Cheerio:)