Chains.

You think you know people. Obviously not. But funnily enough it's the tiny things we don't see in them for a decade or so and all of a sudden you realise shit how the hell did I miss something that obvious. And all of a sudden it's a perfect flashback moment like those old movies and your hit with the realisation of how much you hate that trait in anyone let alone in the people that you consider your closest.
I actually thought hard and long on how I should tackle the situation but annoyingly so -just like diets that suit not just anyone - their is no wrong or right answer here either . I found myself helpless if I must say so myself. Self pity and a trip to sulky land didn't help either . In the end I realised the problem is really the problem. My lack of being strong enough to put my foot down is.
Yeah sure we should accept people for what they are with the good the bad and in this case the really ugly personality traits. But being honest with myself would I like me with those ? Or even simpler would my loved ones like me if I had a habit they didn't like ? Sadly I know the answer to that. But on the bright side it gives me relief too , because I may not be able to change or discourage that trait into submission but I can certainly built a diversion around it. That's the meaning of relationships in the end isn't it. Not all sunshine and blue water. Just a million ways to avoid the conflict you have with those weird or bad or materialistic habits and the conflicts you have within.
You gotta suck it up and focus on the positive. It's hard when your having a crappy day but if we manage one day I think that's enough to get you through at least a month if your a confused pessimist-optimist like me :p
Cheerio :)