Embrace it .. or forget it .

It's funny how people change so much and we never even realize it after a long time . Friends and family and even acquaintances . My personal experience has really shocked me out of my shoes sometimes .

 They say they like you as you are , no changes no alterations . And then one day when your finally feeling happy with yourself and approve of even your disliked traits BOOM!!!! You get a wake up call . Your family member says 'you didn't turn out as expected ' , or your friend who loved your new  bob all of a sudden says ' you should do something about your hair ' .If the liked you 'cause of your height , now they think your 'too towering above them' .If you have acne they all of a sudden realize that'clear skin would really suit you '. And ofcourse a very hot favourite is that if your a little towards the chubby side , justttt a little tiny winy bit , they change their 'your likable as you are ' to a ' you should loose a little weight you know , its not too harmful' !! Yeah right people . Must not be harmful coming from your mouth but the little change you want to make definitely sounds as much harmful as a nuclear bomb to me.

Why aren't people ever happy with us ?? Or is it just us seeking too much approval from them ?? Low self-esteem issues that compel us to be dependant on a fickle opinion of a person who cant live 7 straight days without bringing about a "phenomenal" change in you ? I myself haven't ever been able to justify my need to be accepted by a few specific people in my  life. So like all things,I change something or the other in my own way so that he/she/they can approve .

But here's the thing .. if I have enough courage to change or alter something in me physically or personality wise , don't the people I'm doing it for have enough dignity to accept me the way I am ? ....And by acceptance I don't mean just bear me , but actually love me for the way I am .

I'm sure we all would like to live one day without trying to fit in , or be recognized or simply put "to be loved". Unbelievably nowadays we have to actually 'make an effort' to get love .

It's sad that the person/persons we do all this shit for don't get the fact that if we get acceptance for the way we are , we are bound to change ourselves in a  constructive way out of love for them . Not out of some invisible binding that comes with relationships.

So since I cant change the ones I love , I'd like to atleast accept them for them .. for the reason we loved them in the first place . Not for some "custom-made human" we want them to be .

Cheerio :)